“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly . . .” – Theodore Roosevelt
Daring greatly, what a challenge. Great reward requires great risk. Sometimes our faces will be marred by sweat and blood. Sometimes we will err and our shortcomings will overcome us. But in the end, even if we fail, we can do so knowing that we have dared greatly.
Last year, someone I admire said to me, “I don’t want to look back on my life and say that I lacked moral courage.” Courageousness requires moving forward when we’re afraid. The practice of daring greatly is foundational to building lasting and fruitful relationships, even with our haters.
This is at the heart of our message at LOVEboldly. We often get questions about what our “stance” is on one thing or another, but there is only one “stance” that we are about. As it turns out, LOVEboldly isn’t about sexual orientation at all.
LOVEboldly is about adopting a stance of grace and kindness towards people and perspectives which confuse us, frustrate us, anger us, hurt us, misrepresent us, and sometimes even work against us.
This is what we spoke about at the GCN Conference a few weeks ago – Christian Civility. We love others, not because we want to change them, but because love changed us.
Love is our call, whether we like it or not.
And love, of all things in the universe, requires us to dare greatly. Over the years, there have been many great minds who have contributed to my own thoughts about what it means to dare greatly in relationships with others. Brene Brown is one of them. Brene was, in fact, the person who first introduced me to the man in the arena quote above. I first discovered Brene through a video of her talk at TED talks in 2010, in which she spoke about the power of vulnerability. Click that link. Watch it. It may change your life.
After I saw that video, I read Brene’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Read that book. It may change your life.
I recently discovered that Brene has written a new book, Daring Greatly. In conjunction with the new book, she has created this insightful poster below called the “Engaged Feedback Checklist.” These 10 steps pull together LOVEboldly’s core values so eloquently that I just had to share it.
Check out the poster, and then check out more about Daring Greatly on Brene’s Website. And then, tell us what you think.